Out with minimizing, in with acknowledging
By Lili Romann
We’ve all had a lot to deal with recently. Between the pandemic, a war-torn world, a democracy at odds with itself, a nearing recession and more, there are lots of reasons to feel scared and stressed. Aside from these large-scale issues, you may be working a hybrid schedule and having to find a balance between your work hours and picking up your kids. Or maybe your course load at school is kicking your butt and you are worried because your family is facing hardships. The list seems to be endless.
The key to navigating a stressful, or often tumultuous sequence of events – this applies to everybody – is how you choose to confront your stress (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2021). Let’s introduce the topic of “toxic positivity,” an approach to emotion management that involves dismissing negative emotions and overgeneralizing positive ones. Toxic positivity is a belief that, no matter what, you should keep a positive mindset (Goodman, 2022). People following this concept appear positive when they are struggling.
We are excited to meet prospective patients and referring providers in this free virtual meet-and-greet where Beth will provide more information about EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and answer questions about the EMDR services available at J&L.
Monday, June 13th, 2022
12 - 1:00pm
Virtual Webinar via Zoom
In this 1-hour virtual discussion, you will learn:
EMDR is an approach to therapy that assists with processing traumatic memories without needing to talk directly about distressing details of past events. EMDR has evidence for use in treatment of trauma, depression, anxiety, and other mental health conditions and can be used in adults and children. Check out the brief introduction to EMDR on our Treatment page.
Whether you have been in trauma therapy before, are currently seeing another provider, or have never had any therapy in the past, EMDR may be an important component of your healing journey.
J&L is now offering:
This free 1-hour event is the first in an upcoming series of J&L Midday Moments - one hour discussion-based meetings and informational sessions intended to create a collaborative and supportive environment in which to both learn about and discuss various aspects of treatment offered at J&L Psychology. These events are open to patients and providers. Each Midday Moment will offer ample time for questions and discussion, and all questions will be submitted anonymously through the virtual chat function.
REGISTER HERE FOR THIS FREE EVENT.
Meet our EMDR provider: Beth Phillips, LCSW
Download the event flyer here.
J&L Psychology Group offers a full-time, one- or two-year postdoctoral fellowship in summer/fall. The position requires 20-25 clinical hours (1:1 patient care, group) in addition to attending a weekly clinical meeting, projects meeting, and individual supervision. Administration time and project development hours also are included in the 40-hour work week.
We are looking for candidates interested in working with children, adults, families, and/or couples in a close-knit, collaborative, therapeutic group practice. Our offices are located in midtown Manhattan close to public transportation. We offer in-person and virtual services, allowing our clinicians to tailor a hybrid schedule according to their and their clients’ preferences. The postdoctoral fellowship position at J&L Psychology Group is designed for candidates who have successfully obtained their doctoral degree in clinical or counseling psychology and are interested in accruing licensure hours in a supportive private practice setting. J&L Psychology Group specializes in the treatment of individuals across the lifespan (children, teens, adults) who present with a diverse set of issues, including complex trauma, anxiety, depression, adjustment/transition issues, etc. We provide individual, couples, and family-based therapies. We are passionate about developing authentic relationships with our patients and tailoring treatment plans to fit each person. Our team has extensive training and experience in many treatment models, including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and Psychodynamic Therapy.
Compiled by Emily Brackman, PhD
“Recovery can only take place within the context of relationships; it cannot occur in isolation.” – Dr. Judith Lewis Herman
While we are more "connected" than ever before, technologically speaking, it has been a long and lonely pandemic for many if not most of us. Even with constant, immediate, and seemingly endless outlets for virtual contact, loneliness and longings for meaningful social connection are at an all-time high.
In the Japanese art of Kintsugi, broken pottery is repaired with a bonding substance lined with gold to create a new, beautiful, shimmering object by integrating and honoring past pain. As we each reassemble the pieces of our former way of life to build an even stronger foundation, it is important to remember that our ties to loved ones, friends, family, and community can serve as the glue that holds us together.
As a team of mental health professionals at J&L, we recognize that there is no one-size-fits-all cure for loneliness. We have put together 5 suggestions of things you can do If you are struggling to connect with others and are looking to build community.
By Jennifer Newman, PhD
On a recent rainy day, somewhere on the Upper East Side of Manhattan, I sit alone in our beautiful office space and the bell rings. I’m expecting lunch, however, am surprised to see a familiar face on the screen as I go to buzz in my delivery. One I have not seen in a long time.
For nearly 30 years she had turned the key and climbed the steps, past the hall door and into Suite 201, which is tucked into the corner of the building. This woman, now retired, stopped by this day on her way back home to her native country in Europe. Her cabinets are gone, and the names on the door frame have changed, but inside 201 her ethic of care still remains. Where she plucked, smoothed, and buffed people to their best selves, we now help them renew from the inside out, and open them to new possibilities through therapy.
By Laura Price, PhD
The headlines are screaming what we already know and feel: Too much work, too much pressure, and too little space to think, to play, and to love, is a recipe for burnout.
Consider this study from the World Health Organization and International Labor Organization published in May in Environment International. It is the first global analysis of loss of life and health related to working long hours:
“The study concludes that working 55 or more hours per week is associated with an estimated 35% higher risk of a stroke and a 17% higher risk of dying from ischemic heart disease, compared to working 35-40 hours a week.”
By Jennifer Newman, PhD
As a therapist I am in the unique position of getting to listen to many people reflect and talk about their lives. Often I am confronted with examples or ideas that seem to defy my own held beliefs. When this happens, I find myself reflecting on what I believe and why. This is a part of my job that I love because I am always learning -- learning something new about the patient in front of me, the world, or a new perspective on humanity, psychology, or myself.
A recent example of this came up in my work. Have you ever heard someone say, “You can move or go somewhere else, but your problems go with you?” I have. I think I have held this thought as a truth myself. And, logically, it does make sense. If you are depressed and you live in New York, and you decide to go to Canada, wouldn’t you still be depressed? I mean, maybe for a day or two you would be distracted, but wouldn’t it ultimately come back? You are still the same person in any environment, right?
By Jennifer Newman, PhD
Can you really find joy when you have no energy left to truly enjoy it?
Do you want to live in a constant grind, so busy you don’t have time to slow down and notice the daily pleasures that surround you?
As a young professional chasing more was the constant pursuit. Higher grades, advanced degrees, better jobs, higher salaries, more, more, more… Burning out in the rat race façade of success.
As a slightly seasoned professional I am on the constant pursuit of less. How can we, as a community, encourage each other to find balance and not reward overworking, work less. Not reward projects that are of no value to you, do less of what has no meaning to you. Not reward doing everything you can at all times, do less and have it be what you are really good at.
The constant pursuit of less means having to really figure out what matters, and spending your time doing that, and not finding excuses for why you are too busy.
J&L Psychology Group is currently accepting applications for a full-time, one-year postdoctoral fellowship with a flexible, immediate start date (estimated that position will begin in summer/fall of 2022). The position requires 20-25 clinical hours (1:1 patient care, group) in addition to attending a weekly clinical meeting, projects meeting, and individual supervision. Administration time and project development hours also are included in the 40-hour workweek.
We are looking for candidates interested in working with children, adults, families, and/or couples in a close-knit, collaborative therapeutic group practice. Our practice is located on the Upper East Side of Manhattan and all services are primarily being provided virtually due to COVID-19 crisis.
By Emily Brackman, PhD
At the one-year anniversary of the COVID-19 pandemic, our inboxes and social media feeds are inundated with creative tips and tricks to improve our emotional well-being. Although there is light at the end of the tunnel, we continue to endure drastic changes to daily life.
While staying in touch through Zoom meetups or taking a relaxing bath certainly can help soothe the effects of mind-numbing work-from-home days and prolonged social isolation, sometimes these one-size-fits-all strategies simply do not do the trick.
If you find yourself anxious, depressed, or lost as we arrive at this anniversary – you are not alone. During times of prolonged uncertainty and constant change, it is remarkably human to at times feel less hopeful or excited about the future. You may find yourself asking, “What is the point of it all?”