Good therapy always starts with a positive, supportive, trusting relationship with your therapist. Like any relationship, the fit between therapist and client is fundamental.
Regardless of treatment modality or theoretical orientation informing your care, our J&L Psychology clinicians strive to create a warm and welcoming foundation on which to build a therapeutic relationship that is based in transparency, flexibility, and mutual trust and respect.
We are attuned to the unique challenges of developing a therapeutic relationship on a digital platform. J&L Psychology clinicians have extensive experience providing treatment via telehealth. We will guide you through the process and adjust our approach to enhance your sense of comfort and safety.
Developing your authentic self
Developing a healthy sense of your authentic self is critical to building a meaningful life. While a clear and coherent sense of self is generally something that develops over time, therapy can help accelerate that process.
When people struggle to connect to a healthy sense of themselves, the question of “Who am I?” can seem impossible to answer. Issues might include:
Your true self may also feel inaccessible due to ongoing experiences of identity discrimination.
Treatments used in adult therapy
Emotionally focused therapy (eft)
This research-based approach is considered the gold-standard treatment for couples and has been adapted for families and individuals. The EFT therapist helps couples identify patterns in their relationship that prevent them from feeling fulfilled and connected.
In EFT sessions, your therapist will actively help you find new ways to talk about what you are longing for in your relationship as you work together to understand the emotions that get you stuck in your usual patterns.
When couples learn how to communicate their deep, authentic needs to their partners, it can change the relationship into one that is more secure and nurturing.
cognitive behavioral therapy (cbt)
CBT focuses on the relationship between your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Shifting your thoughts and behaviors can lead to meaningful change in emotions that might be blocking you from achieving your goals.
CBT is an active treatment in which you work with your therapist to achieve change. This approach often includes structured exercises and assignments between sessions.
Your therapist will help you: a) challenge unhelpful thoughts that hold you back; b) start engaging in activities that matter to you; and c) approach important things you have been avoiding in life.
CBT treatments also may incorporate mindfulness training to help you acknowledge the present moment. You may also learn skills to help you relax your mind and body, tolerate distress, and manage painful feelings.
Psychodynamic therapy emphasizes your early life relationships, prior life experiences, and unconscious processes as you work to gain insight into how you feel and what you do.
When building a relationship with a therapist, it is common for individuals to “play out” past relationships (usually without conscious awareness of it happening in the moment).
In psychodynamic therapy, these "enactments" of past relationship patterns are explicitly unpacked and explored to help you become more deeply aware of how you relate to yourself and others. The goal is to develop more adaptive ways of engaging in the world. These new discoveries are practiced in this safe space, then applied in a person's life outside of therapy.
J&L clinicians have a wide-range of therapeutic expertise. Above, we outline some useful information about the approaches to treatment commonly used in adult psychotherapy at our practice.
Identity challenges may leave you disconnected from your true "self"
Painful emotions often are a result of chronic "othering:" Racism, colorism, ageism, sexism, and transphobia are some examples of how bigotry manifests in overt and covert discrimination. Society's macro- and microaggressions erode one's healthy sense of self by suggesting "you don't belong." When the world feels unsafe, it is difficult to accept or express diverse racial, ethnic, gendered, and sexually oriented aspects of yourself.
At J&L Psychology, we start from a place of respect and dignity and work with you to explore what makes you unique. Establishing a safe and confidential judgment-free space is essential for exploring or discovering your authentic self. J&L Psychology is LGBTQ+ affirmative* and welcomes anyone exploring or questioning the intersections of identities that contribute to your understanding of yourself. We also recognize that family, culture, and environment influence how you develop a healthy self consistent with your personal values.
*J&L Psychology recognizes personal pronouns reflective of your preferred gender expression.